We are in a century of sexual exploration. After studies done be scientists like Masters and Kinsey, exploring ones sexuality and desires is encouraged for psychological and sexual wellness, as long as both parties are able and willing.  New positions are being discovered and attempted.  Sex toys and different techniques and products are being used to achieve the ultimate sexual pleasure.  What works is also more widely discussed and accepted.  You can see pleasurable sex and various techniques in movies, books, and online.  There are even advertisements for safe sex, sex products, and toys.  It is a beautiful time to be alive!  One action that is not perceived as beautiful, but can be very pleasurable for men, is rimming.

                  If you have not heard of a rim job before, you have either not watched a lot of pornography or exposed yourself to a lot of sexual discussion.  Rimming is when one partner licks the other's butt hole, sometimes referred to as a “dirty starfish”, and may even allow his or her tongue to penetrate his or her partner's anus.  Many people describe this hole as an exit only, but some people enjoy having this area stimulated. 

                  Why would anyone enjoy such an awkward sexual act? Well, there are nerves in the area that can release hormones in the brain.  You can feel pleasure, pressure, and pain in this area, just like most others on your body.  Therefore, if someone is stimulating his or her partner's butt hole, the brain may release pleasure hormones and sexually arouse him or her. 

                  However, this act can be more pleasurable for men than women.  Women can enjoy the pressure or pleasure that is stimulated by her partner's tongue. But, they are missing something that a man has in that region.  Men have prostate glands.  These glands reside around the anus and can be stimulated when the anus in entered. Whether the man's partner uses genitalia, fingers, toys, or a tongue, entering the butt hole will not only ignite the sensory nerves in the sensitive area, but massage the prostate as well. When the prostate is massaged and man is sexually aroused, this is typically a pleasurable experience that can excite the man more or lead to a more powerful happy ending.  Some compare a man's prostate to a woman's g-spot. 

                  Since this is considered a “dirty” area, when participating in any sexual activity regarding the anus, there are a few things to keep in mind.  First things first, you should always clean this area anyway, but you should make sure it is especially clean if you are planning on having your partner play with your dirty starfish.  Your partner can contract a disease when licking your butt.  The bacteria that resides there is not sterile and can negatively affect your partner's oral cavity or overall health.  Also, it is common courtesy to make sure your partner does not have to engage in something disgusting to give you pleasure.