I’ve been seeing quite a few comments from women and some men about how being in this hobby makes it seem like we hate women.   Let’s explore this controversial subject shall we?  The issue is this:  does paying these women to do sex acts make us men seem like we hate women?  There are 2 sides to this. 

One view is that it actually means we love woman.  We spend our hard earned dollars on them.  If we don’t love doing this, why would we spend the time and money on them? We could be using our money and time on something else if we didn’t like doing this right?  We actually love to spend intimate moments with our providers. The human touch they provide is well worth money for us.  Human beings crave being touched by other humans.  It’s what keeps society intact.  When you get a massage, it’s an intimate act.  A stranger is touching you in a way that maybe your significant other doesn’t get near.  And we seek companionship and assurance. We like to be touched and feel like we’re wanted.  Some women take their man for granted.  A good masseuse makes us think that she is really taking good care of us, but at the same time, make it seem like they are happy to do it for us.  That is why it is not surprising that a few fall in love with their ATFs.  Yes, it does happen.  So how can people say hobbling/mongering makes us hateful?  We love the beauty, grace, smell, and skills that only a lady can provide.  There is no substitute for a women’s touch period.  I love it, you love it, and any healthy heterosexual males love it.   

The other perception is that we are perverts and creeps for paying for extra services.  We get sexual gratification only by objectifying these women. Especially in the massage service sector.  Since most providers are of the Asian heritage, it is even more objectifying because we view them as exotic, demure, submissive, nurturing, etc.  It is hateful behavior because the women are disposable commodities.  Once we’re tired of one, or a new one comes along, we jump from one to the other. There is nothing meaningful with these sexual encounters.  Simply pay before or after the act and move on to the next victim.  Yes, some see the masseuses as being victims.  And the mongers are taking advantage of their circumstances. Women are to be used and abused because mongers have the financial leverage.  They know they have to please the men or they will lose business/customers if they don’t. 

So who is right and who is wrong?  Is there a simple answer?  Does it matter?  These are hard questions each of us has to answer for ourselves.  I think people tend to seek answers to whatever will clear their conscious.  And then there are those that like to judge.  They love to get on the soapbox and cast blames on things they do not understand.  It’s a situational thing.  It depends on the conditions and variables in each case.  I don’t think there is an easy answer that satisfies every scenario. For myself, I do this not because I hate or objectify these woman; nor because I love them.  I do it because it feels good to me.